The Dog's Name

Translated by
Dr. Henry "Indiana" Jones, Jnr
Tuesday, November 07, 2006

SPG (in an old post) had some interesting things to say about keeping men happy...

...would a morning BJ do it? Are men...am I so easily satisfied?

This really got me thinking...how much of a man's happiness is tied up in sexuality and the ability to satisfy a partner? Or for that matter to be sexually satisfied by a partner? Does great sex make up for a mediocre relationship? Do men/women and perhaps more importantly, have I traded in the past my general happiness, have I stayed in ultimately destructive relationships for quite simply what we used to term: a good root*?

And are we talking slow romantic making love, or the fast and furious bump and grind bent over the kitchen counter type sex? Is there a difference? If there is, I don’t think there should be, both have there place, both should be able to be enjoyed by two people not caught up in societal expectations and religious traditions but rather giving all to pleasure the other person and thus receiving maximal fulfillment as a matter of course.

I acknowledge in these "enlightened times" of platonic friendships that the only way I feel important to a gf is with sex. And while it is not as simple as that, there is a ring of truth to it. Most of the guys I have spoken to at any depth beyond the shallow in this matter concur, in accepting that you have a need for platonic male friends and while trying to demonstrate an enlightenment and adoption of this modern (if miss-guided**) thinking we also accept that the only thing that really separates us from them is sex. If you share deep aspects of your life with "platonic males", who you regard as great friends and with great affection then the only thing separating us from them is that we get to enjoy you naked. And while most women will not see this, will argue against it and will not agree with it...for men it is true.

And although I think this is a bit of a simplification, I have in the past thought it, and in the case of happiness I have to admit that a satisfying sexual relationship does make for a happier archaeologist. And yet one Bloke at the Pub confided, he was worried that the only time he was truly happy with his wife and their relationship was in pre or post coital bliss?

I hope I am never at that stage or it would be very telling for the future survival of the relationship...since while I would not want my relationship happiness ever linked solely to sex, I would not want to exist in a sexless union.

But back to the question of the morning BJ, would one make me happy?

Well it's been a while since my day started on such a high note, but if memory serves me correctly, then...HELL YES.

* Root: Australian slang for fuck. Why do you think Aussies laugh so much at the Canadian brand ROOTS, since in our country it is not a brand as so much an advertisement for a casual attitude to sex and preference for multiple partners.

** Platonic Male Friends (the heterosexual ones) are like the Easter Bunny, a figment of the modern female mind and the creation of a media driven by an over zealous desire to be politically correct. ALL, yes ALL your supposed "platonic male friends" have thought about you naked and wondered what you are like in bed...they may, out of respect, upbringing, a sense of honour and eventually (over time) real friendship never act on those thoughts, but trust me they do have them.

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26 Comments:

M said...: I think sex is extremely bloody important for both men and women - who would really want to exist in a sexless union? But if a good root is the bottom line for men - the only real thing they look for...then wow don't I hate being a romantic right now? sigh.; 09:58
Anonymous said...: I feel sex is important in a relationship, but again the relationship cannot be based on sex alone.
It happened to me once, where we were together as the sex was good, n that’s what he still says when we talk, that we always had a good root. But sadly, that was it between us and so we both ended it. So from that experience, i won’t want to go down that path again. But i still feel sexual chemistry is very important.
I don’t know if a good bj would make a guy happy as last i checked, i din have a penis. But i do know a good root in the morning makes T a happy girl. :)

T

PS: 3 Questions on dating:

When is it good to kiss a man (1st date?)?
How many dates before sex?
Is sex on first date slutty?; 10:10
Indiana said...: M: Oh bugger is that how my post reads???

I wasn't trying to say sex was the "bottom line" or it was the only thing they look for, but that very often today it is the only thing that separates us from the mass of men that some women now have in their social circles.

If you have a male in your "circle of trust", you share with him, have an affection for him, trust him, like him, care for him, and maybe even have love for him, as you would any good "girl friend" then what is it that differentiates your boyfriend from him?

Oh and I was speaking out in favour of the morning BJ ~grin~

T: Sexual Chemistry is vital for a relationship to work, without it there really wouldn't be a relationship instead there would just be a friendship. And I agree a "good root" or morning sex can really start the day on a high.

I will answer the questions in a post tomorrow...thanks for the inspiration.; 10:17
Anonymous said...: Hey that ain't fair. I asked questions are you are going to post a topic on it. Well make sure its all relevant, i want to know everything about how a man would react to a woman on a first date.

T
PS: Do you use msn?; 10:29
Jenna Howard said...: * Root: Australian slang for fuck. Why do you think Aussies laugh so much at the Canadian brand ROOTS.

You cad!!! :P "Do you have anything from Roots?" Aaaaaaurgh. Ima gonna beat you down. Beat. You. Down.

For that you deserve a backpack AND a ball cap.

Grrrr. ;); 10:41
Indiana said...: T: I don't know if I am even remotely qualified to answer for the "everything" when it comes to men's reactions on a first date but I will address my thoughts to your questions. I may even consult the Blokes at the Pub

When a comment has little to do with the post it is attached to, what is done with the questions is completely up to the blog owner. And I guess they will be as relevant as I decide to make them. ~grin~

Yes, but I am very rarely online.

Jenna: LOL...well lets just say I knew Canadians were honest but advertising availablity like that is truly noble ~grin~; 10:45
Anonymous said...: Grrr, Well its ok. I guess im sure you would have something good to write about. Would look forward to tomorrow's post than. Off to meet some rotten people.
Have a great day. :)

T
PS: Skype? my id is tara_r; 11:05
Sarah said...: For some reason, I think I put more importance on sex in a relationship than men I have dated. However, none of them speak about sex like you do. Maybe I should find some different men. Or be nicer to the ones I already have ;); 11:45
Traveling Chica said...: Two years ago I would have argued up one side and down the other about that Easter bunny crack.

Then I learned the truth.

And it threw off everything I'd ever believed about male/female friendships.; 12:18
Indiana said...: T: tara_r ??? As in that really bad Hollywood actress with the horrible boobjob? ~grin~

Sarah: Not "different"...BETTER. And being nicer to the ones you have never hurts. ~lol~

Chica: I am not saying that men and women can't be platonic friends but to deny that there is a sexual tension that exists either reciprocated or not in such friendships is naive.; 12:51
van said...: morning oral puts everyone in the best of moods. random question: do guys prefer oral to sex? and if they do is it because they dont have to work for it?; 13:31
GiggleWorthy said...: ARGH! I don't want to think about my male friends thinking about me nekkid.

I'm all disturbed now.; 13:35
Anonymous said...: Haha, i never thought of that resemblance actually. But you know what i do have the same kinda boobs as her but its all real. -grins-

T; 13:55
Indiana said...: Van: When she is on top you aren't really working for it either...well at least not in the same way. And personally I prefer it all.

Giggles: You were disturbed before...you flew home and spent time in your wardrobe with your shoes, ALONE...that is disturbing.

T: So instead of fake boobs with scars you have real ones with scars? ~grin~ Besides I don't know of many Asian girls with DD boobs that can claim they are real.; 14:20
Scorpy said...: The Point on PMFs is soooo true!!!!!; 14:44
Anonymous said...: Yes i have real boobs. N i do seriously hate them. Nah, DD is toooooooo much. Im just D.
Well there is no point in lying, it is easy to tell if its real or fake.
Its just all fats, n i do not see why some men actually like big boobs.
I find women who have small tits really attractive.

T; 14:51
ChickyBabe said...: Sexless union? That spells the start of the end of a relationship. As for the other extreme, having a relationship solely based on sex, that's not for everyone nor would it last because people eventually seek more.; 17:53
Indiana said...: Scorpy: I know ~grin~

T: I have written in the past on my thoughts on breasts, so I don't need to rehash that here...it is ironic that women with small breasts want bigger ones, women with big ones want smaller ones...and most guys just love them all.

Chicky: I think it has to be a balance, but I admit I am favouring it tipped int he favour of more sex, rather than less. ~grin~; 20:03
Anonymous said...: T - I'm Asian, my boobs are dd and they're real. It's kind of genetic. I hate how i never had a choice. And yup, agree with you small tits are nicer!

Indy - nice post. I sometimes think sex in a relationship is over-rated. I once was on a bad relationship just for the good sex. I definitely won't attempt that again. ever.

- the ivy

PS. I wouldn't kiss a guy on a first day. Just so that I could drive him nuts. I'm just wondering though, if that would give the signal that I'm not interested. What do you think?; 21:20
Anonymous said...: One of the two major differences between my relationships with platonic male friends and my relationship with my boyfriend is that I do the horizontal tango with my boyfriend, with my male friends, I don't ( The other major difference is that I love my boyfriend while with platonic friends I love them but not in the same way.).

I feel that sex does play an important role in a relationship, and if I were to be in a sexless relationship, I highly doubt I would be able to stand it for long. Yet I don't want to be in a relationship were sex is the only thing that matters. It plays an important role, granted, but it shouldn't be the focus of the relationship all the time. If that happens, I'd start wondering if he's with me because he really likes me or because he just wants to get laid.

It's a tad disturbing to think that all my platonic male friends have thought about me naked, especially the frigid ones. I don't know if I can look at some of them in the same way again.LOL.; 23:01
Paige Burns said...: I haven't had a guy friend in a long time, but before I got married I had a few and it's funny to think that they had thoughts of me nekkid when thoughts of them nekkid never even crossed my mind, and thinking about it now gives me the heebie jeebies!

I think for a romantic relationship, BF/GF or married, to be successful, it has to be more than sex. Because sexually there are down times, and if you can't relate to your mate w/o the sex then it's a miserable life.

Morning nookie is always a plus in my book, though Mr. B gets up way before I do and he's kind enough to let me sleep. But on our days off I know he wouldn't say no to a morning BJ. Unfortunately, since I got my braces I've had to learn some new techniques...or should I say fortunatly for him, I have to pracice you know?!; 01:20
Anonymous said...: Tara Reid is as gross as her boobs...poor girl, though - just another victim of other people's opinions of her.

Small Boobs, Big Boobs..all can be very attractive.

Should you kiss a guy on the first date or not? Kiss if you want to, don't if you don't want to. Aiyoh, so simple.; 02:58
Indiana said...: Ivy: Tit Size: Most guys don't really care about size...the old adage of more than a handful is wasted (or is it mouthful...I can never remember ~grin~) is somewhat true, but guys are also visual so something large enough to create cleavage will definitely get admiring glances. And I can't speak for most guys, I especially can't speak for local guys (who I hear are more reserved) but all the ang-moh guys I have spoken to, unless you are smoking hot and there was enough flirting banter and signals (that guys can see and read) to let us know you were interested, no kiss on date one signals lack of interest and therefore no date two.

VPS: I read an article recently on human emotion, a scientific/psychological piece that suggested that the affection that women feel for men in general is the same, that it is only as long as the desire to breed with a particular male is present that the affection for him is ranked higher than others…if this is so, then sex really is the telling difference between the boyfriend and all other guys.

No it should not be the sole focus of the relationship…or at least one hopes not.

If you want an honest response into male psychology…the truth is there will be times a man will put up with stuff from the woman he is sleeping with simply for that fact alone. He would not accept the behaviour from anyone else, but he will from you, simply to keep the peace and in the knowledge that it is only in the times of peace that he will get laid.

But, if truth be told, the same might be probably true of a lot of women.

Paige: I’d be interested to know why they did not stay friends with you after your marriage. And as for practice most men I know would be happy to let their partners practice as much as they liked. ~grin~

TS Mama: In my books it doesn’t really matter if the girl wants to kiss me or not, if I want to kiss her I will, all that matters is my desire…if she responds then I know she likes me, if she doesn’t then I also know that she doesn’t. A girl who likes you and wants to see you again will kiss you on the first date.; 07:59
Traveling Chica said...: I agree that men and women can be friends, but at least ONE person in that friendship - if not both - have thought about having sex with the other at some point in time.; 12:05
Paige Burns said...: Hmm, I think partly because I wasn't going out after work as much. Mr. B is not a bar/club guy. One friend's fiancé was a royal bitch and wouldn't let him talk to me so that friendship went to the wayside, and partly because I quit that job working 60+ hours a week so I could start a family.

As far as my part, it's not like I don't have guy friends now, but not of the "friend" caliber that you're speaking of. I don't confide in them, I don't love them, I don't call them to chat. The one guy friend I do have lunch and chat with is gay.

Mr. B has never made a stink about me having guy friends, heck, before we got married that's all I had. So it's not a behavior I chose to quit because he asked me to. If I sit here and think about it, I think it's an unconscious choice on my part out of love and respect for our marriage, and not wanting to compromise that.

Now, if Mr. B had a girl friend, I'd tear the bitch's hair out! LOL.; 15:00
Anonymous said...: indy i got an admiring glance that day. I swear I almost wanted to bare my teeth and sink them into the fella's neck. These days, we sit aside each other not looking at each other while in conversation, cos he's still obsessed about my tits, and i, his neck.
- ivy; 23:35