The Dog's Name

Translated by
Dr. Henry "Indiana" Jones, Jnr
Tuesday, July 18, 2006

SPG raises a point about paying for sex, she seems to have been pretty amused/annoyed about this line from a linked article:

“...the most fertile land a girl can reap is the one between her legs? Give me a break.”

But she opens her Blog entry with this:

"Sex is good fun but why do it for free when you can get something out of it? Sounds god-awfully harsh, doesn’t it, but any fetching female not using her charms to make her life better is not using all her potential."

So hopefully I can be excused if I got a bit lost in the logic of her rant. Further to which DTG pretty much says:

“But payment? Not here, honey. At Pussy Talk, turn-ons and orgasms are all free.”

So we know where she stands on the sex for money issue. Having never paid for sex, if I conveniently ignore the cost of movies, dinner, taxi's etc... I wonder what mental hurdles one would need to clear within oneself to actually do it.

But where do you stand? Would you pay for sex? Or accept money for sexual favours?
Is there someone you would accept money from, or pay, for the pleasure of not their mind or heart but only their body?

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12 Comments:

Officially Fabulous said...: Hmmm.. I have never paid for or been paid for sex. For me, personally, I could never get paid for it, it would make me feel dirty & cheap. Sex is something that I only have when I'm in love with someone. Otherwise... there are BOB's for that sort of need! : )~
~Fab; 23:25
Jill said...: Nope, I wouldn't pay or be paid for sex. I'll let a man pay for dinner or whatever, but by the time I would actually have sex with him, I would at least have paid for another date.; 00:53
Mel said...: As much as women say they aren't paid for sex, and men say they don't pay for sex - I think women are paid, and men pay - mightn't be money in the sense of leaving it by the bedside table or paid upfront, but we all pay -
I accept that -; 18:29
lucy said...: It may sound cynical but I do believe that any time a woman goes into an arrangement, relationship, or marriage with an expectation of being provided for (be it dinners with no equality of payment or long term support) there is a transaction of sorts. This transaction (to me) is in the same vein as currency for sexual favours that a prostitute deals in.

Note the operative word of expectation, but there are a lot of women who do expect that financial support from their partner as a given regardless of circumstance. It's not the support I have issues with it's the expectation or demand of it.; 19:47
Spill The Beans said...: Not to sound COMPLETELY cynical, but when a beautiful woman marries a wealthy man, and doesn't work, and looks upon him as a meal ticket, that's completely respectable in our society, but stripping or hooking isn't.

I don't see a lot of difference, personally. Women sell themselves, just as much, in our society, as they do in Thailand or elsewhere. It's just cloaked in respectability.

I know plenty of men who are just looking for some arm candy to brandish, not a real partner for life...and they usually get what they are looking for (then act very surprised when the woman shows her true colors down the road).; 21:55
Indiana said...: Fab: It would be great to say that I have only had sex with someone I have feelings for, and while I admit that once I start sleeping with someone the heart usually gets quickly involved, there have been the odd alcohol fueled and reasoned coupling.

Jill: Equal Cost Seduction ~grin~

Mel: Whether the cost is money, time, heart or a bending of the person you are, everyone pays something.

Lucy: Expectations are probably the worst thing a relationship can have...hopes are a better way to think of them. And if it's demanded then it really is a simple economic transaction.

Trouble: One of the things you learn living in Asia is that women from that part of the world regard financial security higher on the list of desired partner qualities than western women do. Which is sometimes hard for people not in Asia to understand, since they see it as wrong...rather than different. But there is always a transaction for sex, whether it's behaviour or otherwise...but maybe I am just a tad cynical.; 23:03
Officially Fabulous said...: Maybe I'm just in La La land, but I don't agree that you are "paid" for sex if you are taken care of by a man. I, personally, would never want a man to "take care" of me b/c the price is waaayy higher than sex. Like, diginity lost, self esteem and confidence lost, sometimes independence lost. While I agree that women are doing themselves a diservice in that type of scenario, I don't agree that they should be characterized in the same vein as a woman (or man) whose profession is to sell sex. Call me a romantic, but can't people just have sex for love (or lust)anymore?
~Fab : ); 03:28
Indiana said...: Fab: I hope people can still have sex for lust and love...otherwise whats the point really?; 04:15
Miss Natalie said...: aren't you always paying for sex one way or anothre?; 14:54
Indiana said...: Nat: Yes, but one hopes it's just paid for by the heart not the wallet.; 00:53
expat@large said...: It's a rule of mine. I never accept money.; 18:22
Shaz said...: Personally, I think the whole paying for dinners / movies / transport on a date shouldn't be seen as payment in exchange for sex because I'd like to think that the girl obviously likes the guy enough to want to sleep with him as opposed to prostitution, where it doesn't really matter?

I once knew a guy who became a gigolo just to earn some cash and he told me of this story which was absolutely bizarre. One of his clients was this gorgeous Lucy Liu-ish Chinese girl who was an artistic genius.

She could choose to have any man she wanted, had a great place in Orchard Road (city area of Singapore), and money wasn't a problem because of her promising career. Yet she chose to have sex with my friend and pay him every time simply because she saw it as a 'power trip'. I don't really understand how she could see it as that though.; 13:51